I used to think stay at home moms had it easy.
Here I was, working full time, while taking care of a toddler. I would drop her off in the mornings at daycare, rush to work, get off in time to pick her up, get home and do random house things, plus get her dinner and ready for the next day. I was busy but I did it, no problem. I would gawk at my SAHM friends when they would say things like, “I just don’t have any time” or “How do you always manage to keep your home clean and work full time?”. Um, hello ladies you have all the time in the world… or so I thought.
Then it happened. I too became a SAHM with a newborn and toddler to care for. Let me start by apologizing to all of you hard working mommas. Being a stay at home mom is not easy, especially with a newborn and a toddler. You are constantly entertaining, feeding, cleaning, everything and everyone but yourself. The simplest tasks of leaving the house become daunting. Life is a solitary one with only childish babble and Elmo. You often look in the mirror and think, who is this strange exhausted, disheveled person looking back at me? I quickly decided I needed a way to meet other moms.
That’s how I came to West Valley Mom Blog.
Heading to my interview to be a writer for the blog, I had both of my girls in tow. Any mom knows this is not an easy task. I walked into the coffee shop, glanced at the menu, and decided it would just be too much work to lug the carseated baby, toddler, and diaper bag to the counter. So instead I took a seat near the person I’d be speaking with shortly. She was still in another interview, so I took out some toys to keep my toddler busy. It was perfect, the baby was sound asleep and my other one was being so good and occupied.
Then, of course the minute Rachel (the owner of West Valley Mom Blogs) came to my table for my interview my toddler, Kylee, immediately had to pee. Rachel was so sweet and offered to stay with the baby so I could take my little to the potty. When we got back my energetic two year old couldn’t help but interrupt our conversation; she needed her own chair, she wanted a high chair instead, she didn’t want to sit, etc. Any of you mommas with a toddler know exactly what this was like. I was so nervous I thought that I was blowing the interview by her behavior and my lack of focus.
But then, magically, another mom sat at the table next to us and offered to have Kylee sit and color with them. I couldn’t believe it. Here I was trying to get things done and all of a sudden I had help from women I had just encountered for the very first time. It sounds weird having a complete stranger watch your child, she was right next to me, but it felt right.
I finally felt that the quote, “it takes a village”, was actually happening right there.
Many people search for a moms group for many different reasons. On this day, I realized what I had wanted (and found) were other moms that were able to lend support and help when you needed it and better yet, without even having to ask for it. Kylee got to make a new friend and I got to finish my interview, which led me here writing this blog post for all of you.
I am so excited to be a part of this amazing group of women. I hope I can support them the way they did for me on my very first day. If you are feeling alone and need support get yourself out there. Find a local moms group to join or make a new mom friend. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there.