Do you ever catch someone looking at you?
While I was training at the gym last week I noticed someone watching me…
I started to feel self conscious and did a quick check to make sure everything looked okay. I mean, I figured I was a hot, sweaty mess, but aside from that. All seemed to be good, so I smiled and kept going.
Then, it happened. She started walking towards me and I got that anxious feeling.
What is about to happen? Do I need to make small talk? I wanted to run and hide. And then she said, “ I don’t want to sound creepy. I just wanted to say I love watching you. You are so strong and it’s my goal to lift heavy like that.” Oh!!!!! (It was just a compliment.) “Thank you! You’ll get it. Looks like you are headed there already.” Crisis averted, compliment received, accepted and returned. What in the world was I worried about?
I have been thinking about this interaction ever since. It is hard for me to accept a compliment. In the past, I would have responded by critiquing myself. But, I did it. A simple thank you was enough and then it felt great to compliment her as well. This made me think of how we can give quick easy compliments to make people smile and feel good.
I didn’t plan on sharing this quick encounter at the gym, but it really stuck with me. And then, coincidentally we took the boys to see the Lego Batman movie over the weekend and there was a cute scene that made my gym story even more relevant. In the movie, Batman feels he is better doing everything by himself and that he doesn’t need help from anyone. But as the story progresses, he softens and appreciates what others do for him. My favorite part of the movie is when he looks around and says, “You are amazing. And you are amazing. And you are amazing.” So, I thought, let’s spread some happiness with a few kind words.
Here’s a very short list of compliments you can give to your kids. After reading, you’ll think of at least twice as many yourself. Compliment your significant other, your kids, friends, coaches, teachers, acquaintances, coworkers, employees, and even strangers.
Your children will love hearing words like:
- I am so proud of you.
- You played really great today.
- I appreciate you sharing with your brothers/sisters.
- Thank you for listening to me.
- I love how you try so hard at school.
- You are a wonderful helper.
Think back to the last time you received a compliment and how it made you feel.
I challenge you to give 5 compliments today and keep it going by incorporating random “words” of kindness every day. An unexpected compliment is sure to brighten someone’s day.