I’m going to get real with all y’all …
It is SO easy to lose yourself and your identity in motherhood. We become so blind to it even happening too (I blame the lack of sleep!)
Just ask yourself:
What was the last thing you did for yourself? What’s your favorite store to shop at? Have you read a book lately that YOU were interested in? What’re your hobbies? I often ask myself these questions and honestly do not have an answer anymore.
It’s hard not to get lost when motherhood is so demanding and never ending. There are stinky diapers to be changed, sleep schedules for newborns, school and homework for the older kids, laundry, lunches to be packed, mouths to be fed, car-pooling to school and soccer, surviving the toddler stages, and your job. Just to name a few!
I’ll be the first to admit that I am lost and it is not a fun place to be. It’s like I hit the ON switch for Auto Pilot and I am just rolling each day into the next.
How can we continue to give our children and our spouses a happy mother/wife when we aren’t giving ourselves grace and taking care of us first?
On the bright side; being lost isn’t a destination it is just a pit stop in this season of life that A LOT of us are in right now. We forgot who we once were, what we enjoy, and how to do something for ourselves.
Here are 3 simple ways to start to remember who you ARE:
- Do something you enjoyed before you had children. Go to a concert, a small road trip to go hiking, bike ride, painting, etc.
- Write down and ask yourself what will make you a happier version of yourself. Maybe its losing the 30 lbs you didn’t lose from pregnancy, taking a course at a Community College, or volunteering.
- Make time for yourself. Every week on the same day and the same time do something that you enjoy; it could be going to a coffee shop to read. Getting a pedicure. Seeing a movie. Whatever it is just do something that YOU enjoy.